Archives for June 2013

Recommended Book: Bridal Bargains

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Don’t you love it when buying an item ends up saving you money? Bridal Bargains—Secrets to Throwing A Fantastic Wedding On A Realistic Budget by Denise and Allan Fields will do just that. And not only will it save you money, it will save you time and potential headaches as well.

Bridal Bargains was the first purchase I made as a mother of the bride. It alerted me to certain bridal shop practices/policies to guard against, and I’m so glad it did. It pays to have a little knowledge tucked up your MOB sleeve when making your foray into shopping for wedding gowns—or any other wedding-related item for that matter.

The Fields are nationally known in the wedding planning world for their efforts as consumer advocates, and Bridal Bargains is in its 10th edition. Every engaged couple—and mother of the bride—needs the help found in this book. Sorry I can’t look up specific info in the book for you. I loaned my copy out and haven’t gotten it back! :)

What resource has helped you keep wedding expenses down?

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Despite Fears or Foes

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*Welcome to my new website! Huge thanks goes to my son-in-law Shawn for building my new website. I provided the content and the plan and he brought it to life. Many thanks also to my daughter Kristin for assisting Shawn—and me—in so many ways. I couldn’t have accomplished this without their technical expertise and support. Be sure to check out my new Mother of the Bride Blog and please tell all of your MOB friends about it. I’ll be posting to both blogs on Mondays and Thursdays. Thanks for your support!

“Despite their fear of the peoples around them, they built the altar . . .” Ezra 3:3

Facing fears and foes in order to achieve goals or to follow God’s leading goes way back. The Biblical account surrounding the scripture above is just one such example.

God had moved the heart of Cyrus king of Persia to issue a proclamation calling all of God’s people to go to Jerusalem and rebuild the temple. After they had “assembled as one man in Jerusalem” (Ezra 3:1), the priests and other leaders began building the altar so they could sacrifice the burnt offerings required by God. And they did this “despite their fear of the peoples around them” (v. 3).

History tells us their fears proved to be legitimate. Sure enough, their enemies heard that they were rebuilding the temple of God and immediately began making trouble for them. Scripture says the “peoples around them set out to discourage the people of Judah and make them afraid to go on building.” (4:4)

Sadly, work had to be suspended for a period of time when a new king came into power, but eventually—under another king’s rule and with his support—the people of God finished building the temple.

Today, we, too, will face fears and foes as we try to achieve our goals or follow God’s leading. The“peoples” around us will undoubtedly look different than they did in Ezra’s day, but they will always be there, lurking around, ready to frustrate our plans and discourage us—just like the enemies of God’s people did centuries ago.

The foes we fear may include people, but they might also pop up in the form of other obstacles like lack of ability or knowledge or funds or time. We might also be afraid of failure—or even the new demands that success might bring.

But whatever our enemies are, will history—or at least our own family lore—recount how we moved forward despite our fears of the “peoples” around us? Will we be as courageous and determined as God’s people who rebuilt the temple?

Let’s not let our enemies bully us into refusing the challenge or quitting before the victory comes. Let’s keep our eyes on the Lord and rely on his strength and resources and ability. Let’s not let our enemies win.

“Some trust in chariots and some in horses, but we trust in the name of the LORD our God.” Psalm 20:7

*What foes are you facing today?

*Flickr photo by Paxson Woelber

Introducing The Mother of the Bride Blog!

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*Update Feb 2019: In order to free up some of my time, I’ll be posting only on the first and third Tuesdays of each month. By now, lots of great help and ideas are available in the Archives. Just click on the drop-down menu to see the titles of posts that interest you or use the search feature to look for posts by topic.

Calling all mothers of the bride—this blog is for you! You deserve every bit of help and encouragement that I—a two-time mother of the bride, an MOB veteran—can give. Why? You’re the mainstay, the troubleshooter, and the chief soother of frazzled nerves in your daughter’s wedding planning whirlwind. And you need an ally!

Every Monday and Thursday, I’ll offer posts designed just for you—the MOB. Whether tips or advice, ideas or examples, links and resources, or refreshment and encouragement, my goal will be to help you as you walk with and assist your daughter on one of the most exciting journeys of her life—her journey as a bride.

Let’s not waste a second getting started. My first tidbit of advice:

Take your cues from your daughter concerning how much help you need to provide. Some brides-to-be will want to do most everything on their own while others will either need or desire as much assistance as you can give.

Both of my girls wanted and appreciated having me as a partner in their planning. Still, I had to be alert to overstepping boundaries and be ready to tailor my input and involvement to the level they desired at any given time.

So as you settle into your role, remember above all that this is her wedding. Your role as the MOB is to stand ready to support her. Not much different from all aspects of mothering, huh?

*To see more great tips, info, and encouragement, visit the Mother of the Bride Blog home page.

*Update: For info about my book Mother of the Bride check out my Books/My Work page.

*Update: *Life Notes, my quarterly inspirational newsletter, offers a giveaway in every regularly scheduled issue. Sign-up is FREE and to the right! (If you’re on a mobile device, scroll to the bottom of the screen and click View Full Site to find it.)

*Photo by Will Flowers