Budget Agreement with the Father of the Bride

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Mother of the Bride, are you on the same financial wedding-planning page as the Father of the Bride? Budget talk is never fun—in daily life or in wedding planning—but you’ll save yourself and your husband (or ex-husband as the case may be) countless unpleasant exchanges if the two of you are in budget agreement from the earliest stages of your planning.

FOBs may joke that their job in wedding planning is to hand over the checkbook or credit card, but they really do want to have a say in what’s reasonable to spend for the whole affair. If you’re not careful, wedding expenses can turn into a runaway train in the blink of an eye. If you know how much the FOB is comfortable spending, MOB, you’ll know when to apply the brake and slow the wedding-planning locomotive down.

Most men—on their first time around the FOB block—have no idea what a wedding can cost so be sure to enlighten the FOB in your life early on. Better to give him a chance to absorb the shock and weigh in on the budget for your particular wedding than to hit him with repeated shockers throughout the course of the planning.

So MOB, honor the FOB by getting on the same financial page with him from the beginning. Remember, you’re on the same team. You’ll enjoy the big day—and each other—so much more if financial strain and unhappiness doesn’t become a wedge between you. And hey, your spirit of cooperation will bless your sweet daughter as well!

*You might also like to read Wedding Expenses: Get the Most Bang for Your MOB Buck, A Simple Wedding Expense Tip, and Wedding Savings Tip: Borrow!

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*Hope this revised encore post from Jan. 2014 was helpful to you today!

*Flickr photo by Tax Credits, Creative Commons License

Wedding Expenses: Get the Most Bang for Your Buck

At the beginning of a new year, many of us are looking for ways to trim down, both physically and financially. Saving money always feels good and getting the most value for our money makes us smile as well. Sometimes we get downright giddy over a good deal!

Want to know how to get the most bang for your MOB buck, Mother of the Bride? Here’s my tip: Put your checkbook away and use your credit card when paying for wedding expenses.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not advocating racking up charges that you don’t have the money to cover. But since you’re going to be making lots of purchases—and some of them very big—why not take advantage and rack up the points on your credit card so you can purchase free flights or other free items?

In other words, let the money spent on the wedding work twice for you—once to make your sweet daughter’s dreams come true and the second time to make your dreams come true. Another win-win on the wedding front!

*You might also like to read Wedding Planning Tip: Ask for Price Breaks, Wedding Savings Tip: Make It Yourselves!, A Simple Wedding Expense Tip, Wedding Savings Tip: Borrow!, Let Bridesmaids Bouquets Perform Double Duty, Wedding-Themed Shower Gifts, and Christmas Gifts for the Bride.

*For info about my book Mother of the Bride check out my Books/My Work page.

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*Flickr photo by Images Money, Creative Commons License

Bride and Groom Who Have It All: Suggest Gift to Charity

Mother of the Bride, when it comes time for your daughter and her intended to think about wedding gift options, remember that different couples will have different needs and desires. Some couples will want to register for gifts at a variety of outlets while others will select only one. Some couples are setting up housekeeping for the first time while others have already acquired many belongings.

If your sweet couple falls into the category of those who already have it all, maybe they would like to suggest that their guests give to a charity in honor of their marriage. In lieu of stating where they are registered on the wedding invitation or enclosed card, they could have a message similar to this one:

Brian and Robin have already acquired much of what they need for housekeeping. It would bring them great joy if you would give a gift in their honor to the charity of your choice and then share news of it with them in a card.

Is this something that might appeal to your daughter and soon-to-be son, MOB? If so, share the idea with them and see what happens. What a difference it could make for many!

*You might also like to read Wedding Registry Roundup and Mother of the Bride—Info Source for Gift-Givers.

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Let Bridesmaids Bouquets Perform Double Duty

Mother of the Bride, does getting twice the use out of the bridesmaids bouquets sound good to you? I thought it might. As long as you’re spending the money on beautiful bouquets for your daughter’s maids, you might as well let them perform double duty, right?

Bridesmaids bouquets can be easily repurposed as table décor at the reception. Simply give the bridesmaids instructions as to where they are to place their bouquets as soon as they arrive at the reception. Or have a designated person gather the bouquets (after any photos of the maids holding them) and then run ahead to the reception and place the bouquets for you.

At my daughters’ weddings, we used the bridesmaids bouquets on the groom’s cake table (as seen above) and also on the gift table. The bouquets came in particularly handy on the cake tables. No need to purchase any other kind of décor to accent the cake. Place a bouquet or two near the cake and dress up the table further with a framed photo or two of the happy couple and the cake table is good to go. (By the way, we used my girls’ bridal bouquets on the main cake tables.)

The wonderful thing about bridesmaids bouquets is that they can be used anywhere you need a touch of beauty. You could place them next to the guest book at the reception site or on a photo table if your sweet couple chooses to have one of those. They could even be used as centerpieces on some of the guest tables if you’re doing a variety rather than the same centerpiece on every table. And you may think of other spots where they’d work beautifully as well.

So MOB, why not make plans for the maids bouquets to do double duty? A win-win for sure!

*You might also like to read Quick Tip: Getting the Most Bang for Your MOB Buck, Savings Tip for Bridal and Bridesmaids Bouquets and Christmas Gifts for the Bride.

*Photo by Flowers Photography

Bridal Bouquet Idea: The Roses Have It!


Mother of the Bride, has your daughter decided yet on what kind of bridal bouquet she wants? The choices are myriad so unless she’s always known what she wants for her Big Day bouquet, it will be helpful to look at many options to see what strikes her bridal fancy.

As she considers her options, be sure to show her an all-rose bouquet like the one pictured above. Absolutely stunning, isn’t it? This particular bouquet is a large one, but a medium size bouquet can be equally beautiful.

You might think an all-rose bouquet would be pretty expensive, but roses are actually considered one of the cheaper flower options for weddings. Even going with a large number of roses in the bouquet can be less expensive than bouquets featuring some of the more expensive wedding flowers.

If your sweet girl decides on roses, then next she’ll need to decide if she wants to go with a single color or mix it up a bit by featuring a few colors. The all-white one above is always a gorgeous and elegant choice, but other colors make beautiful bouquets too. She just needs to decide on the look she is going for and on what appeals to her.

As you share the all-rose bouquet idea with your daughter, MOB, encourage her to make the choice she truly wants. The bridal bouquet is part of her overall look for the biggest day of her life so you’ll want her to be in love with her choice. Good luck to you both as you wade in to the world of wedding flowers!

*You might also want to read White or Cream Bridal Bouquet: Add a Touch of Color, Single Bloom Bridal Bouquets, Inexpensive Bridal Bouquet Idea: Baby’s Breath!, Bridal Bouquet: Classic and Elegant Calla Lilies, Bridal Bouquet and Boutonniere Sheet Music Idea, Knitted Bridal Bouquet and More, and Wedding Idea That Sparkles: A Brooch Bouquet!

*Flickr photo by Katsunojiri, Creative Commons License